You know what, what is our biggest fear? it’s the fact that at times people like us suffer from Identity crisis. We don’t know who we are, either we’re the ones who wear creative ideas on our sleeves or the ones who know number munching by the back of our hands.
I’ve suffered an identity disorder like this since childhood. I loved science but scored the highest in literature. I knew physics theorems by heart but still carried a sketchbook and color pencils in bag and drew random doodles. A confused kid as I was, I took up engineering only to teach Othello to an English honors student and help her pass the exam. No, I’m not saying that I was some super talented idiot or I was not doing well in my engineering subjects. I’m just telling you, I was a confused misfit and still I’m doing OK!
I studied as hard as I could but my heart always belonged to script writing and fine arts. I can tell you more about classical and folk music than any subject expert of that field.
I switched professions right after I completed my degree. My family and especially my parents had to face all sorts of questions over my decisions. Most of the people thought they were rash and stupid things that I was doing.
Even when I stepped into the business of Social Media Marketing, I realized this was a field dominated by journalism and communication graduates and you could find stereotyping at every nook and corner. People thought that an engineer was an outsider and we’re nothing but geeks who don’t have an iota of creativity.
Keep that story aside as to how I proved them wrong and build what I wanted, bit by bit. What I want to tell you is, your kid might be a misfit, an introvert, or a I-know-what-I-am-doing brat. Please learn to listen to them if you can’t agree with them always. I’m not asking you to back off and let them do what they want always but try to at least understand the world they’re living in which is much different and evolved than yours.
Digital marketing didn’t existed 10 years back and let me tell you the amount of number munching and creativity it needs in equal measures, a faint heart will fall apart too early here. Had my parents been too conservative about the job I chose, I wouldn’t have been this happy all my life and writing this to you. They accepted that their kid wasn’t like others who would be happy in simply graduating with an MNC job and a monotonous life ahead. They put up with my early stages of constant trying and failing and then trying again, my workholic attitude, my unreasonable rudeness when at work and a lot more. They were OK if I came home too exhausted to even give them a call. They endured it all and still kept encouraging.
Your kid is special, let him choose what he wants. Your job is to be vigilant enough to educate him about everything. I never ask kids to believe that, ‘marks don’t matter.’, Marks definitely matter and that’s the reality check every kid needs to have growing up but what you need to tell them is that marks in your favourite subjects are the ones that matter the most! If you love English, score well in it and it’s ok if you can barely pass mathematics. If you’re good at sports, then strive to be the best sportsman in the world. Whatever you do, wherever you go, do what you love and give it all and rest everything will fall in place.
There’s no glory in being a frustrated engineer stuck in a job you hate and there’s neither any greatness in being a creative director. The glory only lies in choosing what you love and killing it with success. You can’t compare a Sachin Tendulkar to a Mark Zuckerberg, they both have toiled enough to attain what they have and that’s all that matters. I know MBBS graduates going for MBAs simply because they don’t want to be doctors all their life and trust me, we find it pretty normal.
I was lucky enough to have a family that understood and accepted the ‘misfit’ kid. I hope that someday your kid also grows up to say the same.
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About The Author
An Engineer by degree, Digital Marketer by profession and a Blogger by passion, Udisha is an aspiring writer and a published poet. She has contributed on leading Indian and international defence forums. A born foodie, she has a keen interest in contemporary literature and cinema. She’s biased towards humans with intellect. Reach her on email@example.com
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